Baby Friday- Week 15

Sorry for the blurry pic...lots of excitement these days for photos.
Sorry for the blurry pic…lots of excitement these days for photos.

 

This week has definitely been a whirlwind, and I think everyone is adjusting to the idea of having a little girl around here. Well sort of, I bought tiny pink shoes but they’re still in the bag on the counter….so I’m not sure what that says about my level of acceptance. This week has mainly been focused on Mason’s first day of pre-school! Such a crazy day, that kid is having the time of his life, and I was of course a sobbing mess ( I did wait until the parking lot to lose it, so that’s a win in my book). We’re struggling a little bit with potty training, but I think there’s just a lot going on for him. Plus the force is strong with this one. When he decides he wants to play with his toys and pee on the floor, that’s what is going to happen. So lots of changes for everyone and overall we’re all managing them decently well. At least I think . 🙂

My mom has been in Phoenix for the last 10 days helping to take care of my newest nephew for my brother and sister while she transitions back to work, which has been awesome for them, and so wonderful for my mom to spend so much time with them,  as well as annoying for us. We need Mama Phelan here! Although it has given me a taste of what life would be like anytime I get sick of housing prices in San Diego and threaten to move to some godforsaken town where we could have two houses. Yeah, that’s not happening.  I might make my dad add on a second story to their house for us before its all said and done, not sure about those details yet, but we’ll have to work something out so we can stay close. 🙂

I can’t say enough about how obsessed I am with the Tracey Anderson preggo exercise DVD’s. Its definitely not cardio, but it’s been so awesome for my arms and legs and I don’t get dizzy and almost pass out when I do it, so that’s a major bonus. I have some low blood pressure issues not pregnant, and moving from floor to standing quickly is tough for me, and doing it pregnant is just a mess. So this video is great!!! I’m still just trying to fit it into our schedule, since Mason thinks I’m just a jungle gym for him if I’m exercising and he gets dangerously close to kicked in the face every time I try to do it with him awake. Work in progress.

 

Week: 15
Date: 8/22/14

How big is baby? A Hass avocado. Not one of those measly ones that goes on sale…the big mamas.

Pregnancy symptoms? Still hot. Still cranky.

Cravings? Giant hamburgers from Islands with those cheese fries. Which I haven’t gotten because Josh goes to Islands “all the time” because there is one right by his work and he is “over it”. Rude.

Aversions? I’ve been forcing myself to eat eggs this week. I just feel like I know they’re good for me and a good protein option and I need more variety first thing. Raw chicken is still a no-go, although I’ve been eyeballing some Asian style chicken marinades that I’m considering attempting next week. Maybe with my eyes closed? Or maybe Mase can just dump it all in the crockpot for me. 🙂

Best moment this week? Picking up Mase from pre-school and hearing “Mommy! You came back!!!”

What are you looking forward to next week? My mom being home. Also going to Phoenix for Labor Day weekend! It’s been 3 months and we have lots of family to see and a new baby cousin to kiss!

What emotions have you been experiencing this week? Thankfully less crying than last week. Only on the first day of school was it a problem.

Are you wearing maternity clothes?No but my favorite jeans officially need the rubber band on the button.

Any stretch marks? Not yet.

How much weight have you gained? Waiting for my next doctor’s appointment to find out. 🙂

Belly button in or out? In

Felt anything? Sometimes if I have pee really bad (so always) I feel some flutters. Maybe.

Know gender? Totally a girl.

Names? I like Scarlet, but Josh is on the fence because he “doesn’t know anyone named Scarlet”.  But he’s tricky, because if he does know someone with a name I like, its out too. For example, I suggested Georgia, and he refused because his Aunt is named Georgia May, and although I’ve only ever heard her called “Aunt May” in the 7 years I’ve known him, apparently that’s enough for a no. We’ll figure it out, I might just name her Knox since that was my boy name. 🙂

What baby project are you working on? Obsessed with getting a Silhouette Cameo so I can craft. For everything, but especially for the baby.

Any guesses on when you’ll go into labor? I had a dream last night I went into labor 4 weeks early and she was healthy and normal sized and I was happy. Hopefully that’s a prophetic dream.

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Baby Friday- 14 Weeks

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Well we had a big week this week! I had an ultrasound on Wednesday and as my doctor was checking out baby he was surprised to see that baby clearly wanted to show off that it is officially a SHE!

I asked him to write it down and stick it in a sealed envelope for me. I contemplated skipping taking Mase to the zoo as we had planned, but I figured I had waited this long, what’s a few more hours…. 🙂 we got done at the zoo and I took the envelope to Sprinkles cupcakes (Josh’s favorite). They took the envelope from me and filled a dozen with either pink or blue frosting for me and sent us on our way.

We had Mason’s preschool orientation Wednesday night so we had to wait until Thursday night to bite into those cupcakes. We had our bestest friends and my dad over, we Skyped in Josh’s family and my mom and brother and sister in law in Phoenix, and after a lot of screaming and yelling and toddlers everywhere, we finally saw the bright pink frosting. I had a feeling it was a girl, mostly because I’ve been so sick, but also I kind if just knew. I’m excited for the adventure of a girl, but now I need to find a new home for all of Masons baby clothes!! 😂

In other news I started working out again which is amazing. I tried one of my fave classes from 24HR, the CXWorks because it’s mostly butt and legs with some ab work that I knew I could modify, and it was awesome but I didn’t modify enough on some of the burpees and mountain climber actions. I was hurting so bad the next day! Good sore in a lot of places but my back was killing me. My BFF who also happens to be a trainer gave me some good tips since my ab muscles aren’t exactly helping to stabilize my core these days, and it was way better the next few times I went! My only issue is the class times are hard for my schedule, so I’m so thankful my friend Mo loaned me her Tracey Anderson Pregnancy Project DVDs. Tracey is actually pregnant and there’s a different DVD for each month of your pregnancy so you know what she’s telling you to do she clearly understands the limitations and/ discomforts. I love it! It’s a little long so I’m working on squeezing it in, but I adore the simple, low impact, but super targeted movements. Especially since I’m having a girl this time and I hear that makes you ugly I’m trying to stay ahead of the game. 😂

We met Masons pre-school teacher today and I managed to not cry at all, which is amazing, I guess I’m saving it all for Tuesday. Today was a seriously crazy day and I’m grateful this week is almost over, and we can enjoy a day of rest together on Sunday as a family.

Week: 14
Date: 8/15/14

How big is baby? A lemon

Pregnancy symptoms? Soooo hot. And tired. And so so so impatient. I’m working on it so hard but I’m just so over everything all the time.

Cravings? The usual icy things and pancakes and chips.

Aversions? Eggs and raw chicken seem to be all I can’t handle. I even drank coffee twice this week. It’s been glorious.

Best moment this week? Gender reveal night with my besties and fam.

What are you looking forward to next week? Working out 5 times.

What emotions have you been experiencing this week? So much crying! I think with Mason starting school and finding out I’m having a girl it’s just a lot of changes at once for me. So many tears.

Are you wearing maternity clothes? No but I would appreciate if this baby would be an actual bump and not just look like I’m eating chips and pancakes all day. Oh wait….. 🙀

Any stretch marks? No I’m watching for them though.

How much weight have you gained? I lost a pound according to the doctor.

Belly button in or out? In

Felt anything? Nope nothing yet!

Know gender? Totally a girl.

What baby project are you working on? Trying to plan a girl nursery. Lord have mercy.

Any guesses on when you’ll go into labor? Labor is the last thing I’m worried about now. Girls are a lot of work.

xoxo,

Jess

Baby Friday- 13 Weeks

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Well we had a pretty quiet week this week. Our ultrasound went great, baby is looking awesome. But of course we couldn’t tell gender yet, because my babies don’t like to cooperate on that department. But the point of the ultrasound was to check on the nugget, and I’m grateful baby is growing and happy in there. So far all appears well and I am excited.

I was able to eat chicken twice this week and it seems like as long as I don’t have to see it raw or fix it myself it’s ok. Or something like that. Eggs are still a big no go, and the highlight of my week was when Mase stuffed too much hard boiled egg yolk in his mouth at once and gagged himself and nearly threw up into my hand. Don’t worry, just sights and smells I can never un-smell or un-see.

I’m still super tired all the time so still waiting for those bursts of energy I’m told you get in the second trimester. Orrrrrrr I might just be tired until I die, that’s kind of where I’m landing with this.

As I’m writing this I’m also realizing I should probably write closer to mid-day since it’s kind of late and all I’m doing is complaining. 😉 Sorry!!!

I really have a lot to be thankful for, the nausea has eased up for sure and I’ve got lots to focus on with Mase starting pre-school and work getting busier, so there is never a shortage of activities. I’m currently trying to convince Josh to go on a road trip to Yosemite when he gets a little break from school in September…. It’s not going well. I’m not sure how I ended up with a guy from the Midwest who hates camping, but that’s a story for a different day.

I worked out three times this week! This is an amazing accomplishment even though they were short, I am happy they happened. Except for the last one, it got a little rocky. Apparently my old c-section cut doesn’t appreciate mountain climbers or burpees. I mean they’re bad enough on their own we don’t need any extra drama. My BFF has a set of DVDs from Gwyneth Paltrow’s trainer for preggos, so I’m going to give that a shot next.

We have an appointment with my regular OB on Wednesday and another fun ultrasound, and this time I’m taking Mase with me since he keeps asking why he can’t see the baby. I love the ultrasound appointments. 🙂

Week: 13
Date: 8/8/14

How big is baby? A jalapeño! These food comparisons kill me.

Pregnancy symptoms? Soooo hot. And tired. And super annoyed when Mason runs from me as fast as he can at the beach.

Cravings? Slushies, iced tea, Popsicles, spaghetti with meatballs

Aversions? Any sort of protein in the mornings, eggs at all times, raw chicken. List is getting shorter!

Best moment this week? Dr telling me my NT ultrasound was completely normal.

What are you looking forward to next week? Hmmm more Popsicles

What emotions have you been experiencing this week? A lot of impatience actually, I’ve found myself very short tempered. I could blame it on the heat, being tired and this baby, but the truth is it’s no excuse to be rotten so I’m working on it!

Are you wearing maternity clothes? No but I have to unbutton my favorite cut offs if I’m sitting for a long time. 😂

Any stretch marks? No I’m watching for them though.

How much weight have you gained? My scale says 3 pounds. My scale lies a lot so I’m not sure who to trust.

Belly button in or out? In

Felt anything? I’m pretty sure I did during my last workout and I think it was the baby demanding that I stop.

Know gender? What’s your intuition? Still waiting. Still think it’s a girl.

What baby project are you working on? I bought a onesie and cute little shorts from Baby Gap and that’s as far as I got.

Any guesses on when you’ll go into labor? No, and it gives me anxiety to even think about. I tried researching all of my options and it gives me heart palpitations. If I hear the word VBAC again in the next 6 months I’ll probably vom. The whole thing is nuts ok. It will happen when it happens and then it will be over and everyone will be happy. That’s what I’m focusing on. My favorite labor and delivery nurse from Mase told me “no one has ever stayed pregnant forever, so you have that going for you”. Bless her heart.

xoxo,

Jess

TV- Ageddon

So we have a problem in our house these days. It’s been happening more and more frequently, and it was out of control.

For the most part, Mase is a very independent kid. He CAN entertain himself and play for hours, (which he should, he has enough toys to entertain an army) but recently I’ve noticed all this kid wants to do is watch Netflix on Daddy’s iPad or watch flipping Dora on tv. I mean, I’ve got no problem with popping on a little Disney Jr, but it’s getting out of hand. We had gotten to the point of like serious fits and craziness when I would tell him to turn it off and even I was singing along to the Octonauts Creature Report song. It’s catchy, they’re smart over there at Disney.

I’m already drowning in the hideous guilt I feel for constantly trying to redirect my child while I work from home, which I chose to do so I could be close to him and involved in his days. But of course he does not understand what my problem is since I’m sitting in front of him but can’t race cars on his ramp all day. It’s incredibly confusing to a two year old, actually it’s fairly confusing to me as well. And on top of the work-guilt, I also feel equally guilty that instead of constructive or mind engaging playtime, he’s zoned out in front of a device half the day.

And I should mention it since my mom reminds me constantly that I am lucky and that I am able to do a lot with him. He has play dates and park time and beach days and lots of fun, but I think as a mom you sort of always try to do “better”. Whatever that means, and even if an objective outsider claims you’re doing a good job juggling all of this craziness.

I was super frustrated and tired of pinning “ways to keep your toddler engaged without electronics” articles and was venting to my mom about my general concern about Mason and his random schedule and my coping mechanisms for just doing what I need to do to get by. I mean things were tough enough and now I’m pregnant too, so I have to get creative with my approach to daily accomplishments. I had lofty goals once upon a time, and now my priorities have shifted. For example, a reasonable goal for today would have been: did everyone eat at some point some amount today and no one was harmed and/or killed? Yes? Okay then, today is a win.

Let me tell you a little something about Mama Phelan. She was a high school math teacher once upon a time, a principal for a while and then she homeschooled my brother and I off and on. (Brave, brave soul) She’s a wealth of knowledge and full of genius kid ideas and if she could just parent Mase for me too that would be great. She won’t, because she claims being a grandma is way more fun, so I just have to tap her resourceful brain and hope for the best.

She gave me the genius idea of creating a chore chart of simple tasks for Mase every day, and once completed, he could get tokens for TV time. BOOM game changer. The first iteration of the Chore Chart was a super ghetto version I drew myself with Mason’s Crayola markers and I didn’t even use a ruler for the lines which really annoyed/annoys Josh. I taped photos of things I wanted Mase to work on so he could easily identify his chores by fun pictures. It’s ridiculous and embarrassing because I have horrible penmanship and crooked lines, but let me just tell you this bad boy works!

Mase gets a sticker for each completed task and at the end of the day once he’s in bed I tally up the stickers and fill a special bucket up with his tokens. The next day, when he wakes up, when he asks to watch tv or play on the iPad, I ask him to check his bucket for tokens and he has to give one to me before I will turn it on. Our first day he burned through all of the tokens before nap time. That made the later afternoon while I was trying to get dinner together realllllly tough, but bless his heart there were no fits. It’s like the simple disconnect between mommy just saying no because I’m a hateful monster to “sorry, you used up your tokens” was a miracle. The next day I tried to ration him out a little, and even with that he was good without fits! It’s even helping us work on breaking up with the paci, which he was having a really hard time with. I just remind him he has to leave it in the crib or he can’t have a tv token, and he puts it away. Powerful stuff my friends.

I wanted to wait to post about this because I’ve tried chore charts in the past and he’s kind of been over it in a few days. So far though we’re almost 2 weeks in and still going strong! To be fair as well, it has also illustrated how lazy I am…. I mean let’s be honest it’s easier to pick up the flipping toys yourself than battle it out to get them put away at the end of the day. This chart isn’t making things perfect by any means, but it’s helping, and actually it’s helping me as much as him. And in the current state of affairs, every little bit counts!

My next endeavor is doing something nice in Photoshop perhaps and having it laminated. But for now…. Behold!!!!

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Things are by no means perfect and for the love of God why is eating dinner so hard for two year olds, but I love it when someone stumbles on something that might help me with my kid, so I hope the idea of a chore chart/ simple reward system spark some good ideas for anyone who might be feeling overwhelmed or frustrated with motivating and rewarding these feisty nuggets!

xoxo,

jess

Baby Friday- Week 12

Mason received a new pool toy, Mr. Turtle, and he insisted he be a part of today's photo. Enjoy.
Mason received a new pool toy, Mr. Turtle, and he insisted he be a part of today’s photo. Enjoy.

 

Goodbye and good riddance to you first trimester! I definitely do not remember this part of my first pregnancy, but what I do know is that being nauseas sucks with a capital S-U-C-K-S. I was so incredibly lucky to feel so great when I was pregnant with Mase, and this next trimester better be full of all the wonderful things they promise you, like tons of energy and not gagging at the sight of raw chicken. And eggs in any form. Fingers crossed. My biggest challenge is just fatigue and food. I know I have to eat to help with the morning sickness, but I’m struggling with my choices. I still blame Whole30, but whatever it is, almost everything except meat and vegetables and fruit makes me feel gross. But only carbs help the nauseas part….so I’m stuck with one or the other. That’s why I’m really hoping these food aversions get better quickly because breakfast is the toughest part of the day.

This week started off with this hideous heat wave we’re having, and before you judge me and dismiss my pain, please believe it was 88 degrees in my house at 7pm on Monday night. Not okay. To distract myself from this demonic weather, I decided that I need to get Mase on a better routine before pre-school starts in August, so we’ve been working on that, and he’s just been doing so great. I’m so grateful that he responds so well to my random ideas for structure, so I’m really hopeful that will enjoy his adventures in pre-school, (while I peer in the window and cry, obviously). Which, as a side note, there was a whole section in the packet from his school about how parents staring in the window and visiting in class the first weeks of classes was discouraged! hahah I’m sorry of course I WANT to stare in the window all day but I wouldn’t, at least not in the beginning. They encourage parent volunteers throughout the year, so I’m using that as my way in.

We have our NT ultrasound today, and Josh is coming along for that, which I’m super excited about since he hasn’t gotten to see any of the ultrasounds yet. The second pregnancy is tricky, not only are you juggling work schedules of the two of you, you have to get childcare for the kid you already have too! Most appointments we could bring Mase to, but this one is a long one, so PawPaw graciously volunteered for babysitting. I’m excited for this ultrasound, I’m praying of course that all results are normal and baby is healthy and growing well, but I’m REALLY hoping they tell me the gender. I honestly don’t know how people wait until 20 weeks. I have to know. I either have to prepare myself mentally for a girl or start getting excited about Mason’s little brother getting to use all of his fantastic clothes I saved. Either way, it’s time to know.

Week: 12
Date: 8/1/14

How big is baby? A Lime! Which makes me want margaritas…..

Pregnancy symptoms? Tired, exhausted, more tired. Oh and nauseas which makes me cranky. And hot. Just a bundle of laughs over here.

Cravings? In N Out hamburgers  protein style, hot wings, frozen grapes, frozen yogurt, slushies, Starbucks Passion Tea Lemonade. Basically anything with ice involved.

Aversions? Any sort of protein in the mornings, eggs at all times, raw chicken (actually if I don’t see or prepare the chicken, and its cooked and covered with some kind of sauce, I can eat it. For example, hot wings, or teriyaki chicken. If I see the uncooked meat though, I’m done.) But most vegetables are okay now and I like avocadoes again if they’re on something else. More progress!

Best moment this week? Mason asking if he could take the baby out for a little while so I could rest. He pretended to take it out of my belly button and put it in his crib and told it to be good so mommy would feel better. He also told Josh it was his turn to take care of it. Hahahahah I can’t stop laughing about that one.

What are you looking forward to next week? Maybe finding out gender!!! If not then next week should be pretty uneventful in the baby world.

What emotions have you been experiencing this week? I’m mostly just feeling lots of sadness as I prepare Mase for pre-school. It’s definitely a bittersweet sadness, I’m happy and excited for him and so proud of the little boy he’s becoming, but also so sad that he’s growing up so fast. He’s just the sweetest, craziest, funniest little thing and I want him to stay precious and innocent forever.

Are you wearing maternity clothes? Not yet, but I’ve noticed that some of my usual comfortable positions aren’t as comfortable. Like sleeping flat on my stomach makes my organs hurt and when I do a complete forward fold it hurts like all over my torso. So things are growing in there. Thanks baby.

Any stretch marks? Not yet! I have been kind of lazy with the toning oil but I got back on the wagon last night after I realized that my pants are getting tight. Ugh.

How much weight have you gained? I vowed not to weigh myself this pregnancy. I’ll update when the doctor makes me.

Belly button in or out? In

Felt anything? Every now and then I swear I feel a flutter, but I think I’m imagining things because it’s way early according to BabyCenter.

Know gender? What’s your intuition? Still waiting. Still think it’s a girl.

Have you decided on names? We still like our girl name and Josh has conceded that he “doesn’t hate” my top 2 boy picks. Progress at the Martinez house.

What has dad been up to this week? He’s still working a ton and studying a ton. That will probably be the same until December. Then he’ll probably just be working extra hard.

What baby project are you working on? I considered for about 15 minutes how I would redesign the closet in Mason’s room to accommodate a toddler and a newborn, and was excited until I actually looked at the space, and then I got anxiety and had to stop. I vacuumed instead.

Any guesses on when you’ll go into labor? No honestly I can’t even imagine it. I hope this baby just decides it wants to come out without any fuss. I mean, if you have a nauseas pregnancy doesn’t that get you a better delivery? Like some kind of trade system? Here’s to hoping for that.

 

xoxo,

jess